Resilience is the ability to bounce back from adversity in life.
The adversity could be anything that does not go as we would like,
a traumatic experience, being overlooked for a job we wanted,
a relationship breakup, an illness or injury, or a loss of any kind.
Psychologist Martin Seligman tells us that the way we look at life’s setbacks and explain them to ourselves, makes a big difference to how well we recover from them. He says there are 3 main elements of your world view to work on if you want to become a more optimistic, resilient person:
1. Permanent or Temporary – People who are Resilient see that the effects of a trauma or setback are temporary, not something lasting forever, or something that can’t be changed.
2. Pervasive or Local – Resilient people remind themselves that the difficulty occurred only in this one area of life, it’s not all-pervasive. For example, they might say “that person does not listen well” rather than the all-pervasive “nobody ever listens to me” or they might say "that person was a bully" rather than the all-pervasive "I am not safe in life"
3. Personal or Impersonal – If you wish to cultivate resilience, give up blaming yourself for the difficulties you have encountered, adopt the attitude of resilient people that ‘stuff happens sometimes’ (its impersonal) and then look for the learning opportunity the situation offers you – ask what good can come out of this for me? Could I become stronger, or wiser, more self-accepting, more positive or more goal focused….? And what would I need to do in order to achieve it?
This allows you to cultivate post traumatic growth, and then life turns strongly in your favor.
Since other people can be a great gift in our life, a wonderful affirmation to assist us in building Resilience comes from song writer Ted Nugent: "I surround myself with positive people of goodwill and decency"
If you would like to use Kinesiology to improve your resilience call Karen Emans from Sunshine Coast Kinesiology
on 0408 748 532
The adversity could be anything that does not go as we would like,
a traumatic experience, being overlooked for a job we wanted,
a relationship breakup, an illness or injury, or a loss of any kind.
Psychologist Martin Seligman tells us that the way we look at life’s setbacks and explain them to ourselves, makes a big difference to how well we recover from them. He says there are 3 main elements of your world view to work on if you want to become a more optimistic, resilient person:
1. Permanent or Temporary – People who are Resilient see that the effects of a trauma or setback are temporary, not something lasting forever, or something that can’t be changed.
2. Pervasive or Local – Resilient people remind themselves that the difficulty occurred only in this one area of life, it’s not all-pervasive. For example, they might say “that person does not listen well” rather than the all-pervasive “nobody ever listens to me” or they might say "that person was a bully" rather than the all-pervasive "I am not safe in life"
3. Personal or Impersonal – If you wish to cultivate resilience, give up blaming yourself for the difficulties you have encountered, adopt the attitude of resilient people that ‘stuff happens sometimes’ (its impersonal) and then look for the learning opportunity the situation offers you – ask what good can come out of this for me? Could I become stronger, or wiser, more self-accepting, more positive or more goal focused….? And what would I need to do in order to achieve it?
This allows you to cultivate post traumatic growth, and then life turns strongly in your favor.
Since other people can be a great gift in our life, a wonderful affirmation to assist us in building Resilience comes from song writer Ted Nugent: "I surround myself with positive people of goodwill and decency"
If you would like to use Kinesiology to improve your resilience call Karen Emans from Sunshine Coast Kinesiology
on 0408 748 532